Conflict Resolution

Developmentally and regulation supportive

Communication and Conflict Resolution

Aggression, trauma, relational stress, and regulation challenges

A introduction course to the

PLS regulation support model

For parents and professionals who work with children


Course information, date and price

Course location: Online via online video for the course content and via email and Zoom your Q&A session.


Online video lectures: You will receive access to these when signing up.


Q&A session on Zoom:
– After you have seen the course videos you can send your questions via email and book a 15 minute session where we answer your questions. If more time is needed, you can book additional time if you want to.

Price: USD 199


Group options: 
5 or more: USD 149 per person.
10 or more: USD 129 per person.



  • – The video lectures are in English
  • – The online zoom sessions are held in English.

Online lectures on video and live Q&A session on Zoom. 

This course is delivered to you in both online videos and an online Q&A session where you can ask questions and receive specific advice about your particular situation.

You will receive access to the videos immediately when signing up.

For the session, when you send us your questions we will send you a link to book a session in our calendar. If you need to change the date later, just lets us know.

Further group options: For groups, we can set up separate dates for the Q&A. And also include more sessions, in an ongoing process of learning and development in the PLS framework.  All participants will receive access to the videos.

Live training: We can also provide the whole course live on location or via Zoom for larger groups. This can be done in both longer and shorter versions of the course. Please contact us to arrange for this option.

Information for organizers: Do you want to organize a live course for your audience, via zoom or on location? Please get in touch with me to arrange for this option.


Does any of this sound familiar to you?

  • Frequent strong reactions that last for a long time.
  • It takes very little to trigger strong and prolonged reactions.
  • Often frustrated, bored, or angry.
  • Getting involved in conflict with others easily.
  • Aggressive and violent behaviour.
  • Overly passive or submissive behaviour.
  • Lack of motivation, excessive sensitivity, or too self-controlled.

If you are experiencing some or most of these things, you know it is usually exhausting and frustrating for the child, siblings, parents, and others. And that adults can feel unsure about how to relate the situation and the child.

PLS Regulation Support Model

Resolve conflict and support your child’s development

In this course, you will get a practical introduction to the PLS regulation support model.

PLS, short for Positive Learning Spirals, is a skill and practice-focused model that helps you resolve all kinds of everyday situations and conflicts in relationships with children in a learning-oriented, developmentally supportive manner.

The models and principles in this course are relevant to support all children’s optimal development, and in particular, for those who need extra support, most children in the 2-5 age group, and also older children who are face life challenges, transitions, struggling from stress or trauma, or other self-regulation related issues and even diagnoses.

For families, schools and kindergartens

This course and the PLS regulation support model is relevant for parents and those who work with children in school or kindergarten. It is also relevant to others who want to better understand themselves and their own reactions to relational stress and trauma.

After this course, you will have a clear idea about how to resolve everyday conflicts and create a relational environment that supports children’s self-regulation capacity and that is supportive of children’s development in general.

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PLS Starter Pack

In this course you will learn about:


  • Communication and conflict resolution with the PLS regulation support model, the Response Funnel and The Perspective Spiral.
  • The 5 phases of developmentally supportive conflict resolution.
  • The skills to develop to master each phase.
  • About self-regulation, co-regulation and regulation support.
  • Basic understanding of relational stress, trauma, and complex trauma.
  • How trauma and severe stress affect the developing brain of children.
  • Optimal development, mental health, learning, play and attachment.
  • The brain, the autonomic nervous system, polyvagal theory and the social engagement system, and the fight-flight-freeze response.

See the course content here

Course Content

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Section 1: Course Introduction
Section 2: Self-regulation and Regulation-support
Section 3: Skill Levels in Communication and Conflict Resolution
Section 4: The Perspective Spiral (TPS)
Section 5: The Perspective Spiral (TPS) Exercises and Questions
Section 6: The Three Models Together to Support Self-regulation
Section 7: PLS 5 phases of conflict resolution

Hans Holter Solhjell, creator of the PLS framework

Hans Holter Solhjell is the teacher of this course. Hans is a Norwegian educator who specializes in developmentally supportive communication and conflict resolution.

He has developed and refined the PLS regulation support model, The Perspective Spiral and The Response Funnel over the last 15 years, teaching the model to parents, kindergartens, and schools in Norway.

Hans wrote his thesis in pedagogy on topics related to self-regulation, the development of the brain and nervous system, developmental theory, trauma, relationships, communication and conflict resolution and has since specialized on developing and teaching  practical models in these fields.

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He is also a Global Certification Trainer in Trauma Release Exercises (TRE), a practitioner of Somatic Experiencing (SE, a body-oriented trauma therapy), The Feldenkrais Method of somatic learning, and favors a multi-disciplinary approach to create optimal solutions to complex problems.

Hans provides courses and guidance to parents, kindergartens, and schools, as well as a certification training program in the PLS regulation support framework. You can read more about Hans here.

The PLS Regulation Support framework

PLS Regulation Support Model

PLS Regulation Support Model

The Perspective Spiral

The Perspective Spiral

The Response Funnel

The Response Funnel

In this course you will also get an introduction to the PLS Regulation Support Framework (PLS is short for Positive Learning Spirals).

The PLS regulation support framework consists of several new practice- and skill-oriented models, primarily the PLS regulation support model, The Perspective Spiral and The Response Funnel.

All three models and the PLS framework is developed by Hans Holter Solhjell.

The models integrate and synthesize a large amount of research, theory, and above all practical principals into a coherent, highly usable, skill oriented and practical framework for how to better support children’s development self-regulation capacity.

Importantly, the models are applicable in relationships with all children to support optimal development as well as to support those who have more severe self-regulation challenges, either due to trauma, various regulation-related diagnosis, or combinations thereof.

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PLS Regulation Support Model


PLS Regulation Support Model


“The PLS model provides a structure to our work that makes it easier to provide the need to support children in challenging conflict situations.
I use the models in my everyday work, to support children and for guidance of teachers, other staff as well as parents.”

Marit Hunstad

School principal

“In my experience, the models are concrete and practically useful, both in simple everyday situations, as well in the more difficult ones.
And especially useful in the most challenging relationships, where we need to repair, build trust and provide the child with new opportunities for positive relational experiences, cooperation and mutual problem-solving.”
Lene Dragland Solvang

Teacher and special education

“This course and the models gave us a concrete language and way of understanding  conflict situations that we could agree on and improve our cooperation on how to create better relationship with our kids”.


“Thank you! The models have really helped us!”
Anne Bachmann

“The PLS model is a fantastic combination of the theory and the practical, in a way that is really effective.”
Astrid Svendsen

Foster parent

“I have learned how to meet the strong reactions of my boy with empathy, in a manner that actually reaches him. And I have become much wiser with regards to limit-setting.”

Mother of a strong willed two year old.

The importance of relationships for the developing child, the brain, optimal development and mental health.

Relationships affects the functions of the brains

Relationships shape the brain

Psychoneurobiological attachment theory describes how relational interpersonal experiences affect the development and function of the brain and nervous system. And especially the features and parts of the brain that are related to affect regulation, self-regulation, and executive functions. Affect regulation and self-regulation are skills that we continue to develop throughout our lives, including throughout our adulthood.

A child’s development of self-regulation capacity is largely influenced by the quality of co-regulation and regulation support they get from their caregivers in everyday situations over time. And the biological maturation of the child’s brain and nervous system are in many ways dependent on this co-regulation and on relational experiences that support development over the long term. This is also true for adults throughout ones entire lifetime, even though to a lesser degree.

Capacity to deal with relational stress and complexity

Our capacity for self-regulation is largely responsible for our capacity to deal with stress and the demands of life and preserve or restore our own experience of security, inner freedom, and vitality in the situations we are in. And by our ability to handle gradually more complex challenges throughout our lives. Especially in relation to both positive and negative relational stress.

Relational stress, whether positive or negative, is an inherent part of all relationships and all social interactions. A child’s ability to self-regulate is important not only for regulating negative emotions but also for maintaining and modulating positive emotions. For a child, this is important in relation to (for example) taking initiative and participating in play and curiosity while they explore their social and physical environments and their own capabilities.

Mental health, resilience and optimal development

Mental health, resilience and optimal development

Gradually increasing self-regulation capacity and the maturation of the associated biological structures are important factors in a child’s development of good mental health, ability to cope with major stresses, resilience, and optimal further development in life.

The course is also relevant for adults who have experienced trauma, or who want to understand more about themselves and their own experiences with trauma and relational stress. When we can better understand and process our own emotional, cognitive, and behavioral response patterns, we are better able to self-regulate. Obviously, this is an advantage when we are supporting children through our co-regulation, and this course will provide you with some insights about how to achieve this.

For Families, Kindergartens and Schools

The PLS model and framework is equally relevant in families, kindergarten, and schools, and has been used with success to increase cooperation between families, kindergarten, and schools. When more of the adults relating with the child understand and applies the principles of the PLS regulation support model,

If you want to learn more about the PLS regulation support model and how to put it into practice in your daily life, please download a pdf of the model and register on our newsletter on this link.

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PLS Regulation Support Model


PLS Regulation Support Model
The Response Funnel